It is pretty amazing how we sometimes don’t know exactly what we really want in a man. One of the key things you must do is to define what it is that you want in him and not to change yourself to try and make it work with the first guy that comes along. You don’t want to end up wasting time on someone that has absolutely zero chance of being a good match for you.
The fact is that some women actually believe that any man with a pulse will do. Unfortunately, this is a reflection of their self-worth because they believe that attracting and getting a man interested in them can only happen once in a great while.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
The bottom line is if you don’t know what you want, you’ll end up settling for someone who probably won’t be a particularity good choice for you. And this is not good for either of you if you’re interested in developing a healthy, happy, stable long-term relationship.
So ask yourself a few basic questions about what your idea of a perfect man would be.
- Are you looking for a boyfriend with no marriage in mind or no strings attached?
- Are you looking for serious husband material?
- Do you find that you are attracted specifically to Latin, Asian, Caucasian or Black men?
- Do you want a man that is highly educated or maybe someone less educated?
- Do you want a man who is independent?
- Or one who might need to be dependent on you?
- Does a feature in a man like having blond hair, red hair, or black or brown hair make a difference to you?
These are just a few questions that you can ask yourself in order to truly find the right man for you. I’m sure you can think of quite a few more questions that are important to you that you can ask yourself about what would make your perfect man.
The simple fact of the matter is when you know what you want; you are much more likely to attract it.
An example would be if you are ready to find a husband and settle down then is probably not in your best interest to look in bars or clubs.
The reason is simple.
Most men that go to clubs and bars are simply looking for a good time and are not necessarily looking to settle down (although there are always exceptions).
Once you’ve identified type of man you would like to meet, then it’s simply a matter of thinking about where you can find these types of men. Depending on the type and what you have in mind this could be at the gym, through mutual friends, at your workplace, at your favorite restaurant, at parties, or even parks where many people go on the weekends.
Of course don’t dismiss a man that you’re physically attracted to simply because he is somewhere you couldn’t imagine your perfect man being at. As mentioned earlier there are always exceptions and it would be a shame to let ‘the one’ slip through your fingers because of some preconceived notions.
Lastly, when you do see a man that makes your pulse race and that lights you up with excitement make an approach to him if the signals from him are there. One thing you really need to understand is that it’s does a man’s ego good when a woman approaches him. That unexpected adrenaline rush that you may give him can spark a chemistry between you both that may well last a lifetime.
So stop wondering and thinking about how to be attractive to men and get out there and start getting your feet wet by actually doing it.