Here’s a question for you and be honest with yourself when you answer.
Is it difficult for you to meet men? Are you fearful of meeting men? Do you think that you don’t know how to be attractive to men? And do these things that prevent you from trying to meet someone cause you feelings of being alone and give you that feeling empty?
If so, don’t worry about it because I’m going to give you some advice that is going to help you out. You’ll actually be able to take control of your fear of meeting and attracting men and be able to fulfill the love life you are looking for (and don’t worry…it’s easy).
Meeting men should be one of the easiest things in the world because after all both men and women are both wired to want to be with each other. And despite what you may have heard, everyone is not born with the innate understanding of exactly how easy it is meet men and more importantly attract them.
What should put your mind at ease is the understanding that meeting men is a learned skill for most of us. You only need to learn how to talk to men and when you do that – you will have more men to choose from and satisfy your love life as well as your dreams (seriously!).
The bottom line is if you don’t know exactly how to meet men it’s really not your fault. And understand that there is nothing wrong with you because many, many women are in the same boat that you are.
Unfortunately the fear of meeting a man that you’re really attracted to leads to many Friday and Saturday nights sitting at home with those feelings of loneliness and emptiness. And if you’re someone who really wants to attract that special someone you only need to learn a few simple skills and you can easily overcome the obstacles of stopping you from meeting and attracting the man of your dreams.
This power of this fear that overcomes you makes you rationalize why you don’t take the initiative to meet men. You probably imagine all kinds of bad or embarrassing things that might happen. If you will take those first steps towards meeting him, you’ll soon realize that this fear has led to expectations that were never real except in their your own minds.
Many women view themselves in such a way that they think that a guy that they’re attracted to might laugh at them or dismiss them out of hand altogether.
Have these types of thoughts ever entered your mind when you’ve seen someone attractive that you would like to meet?
If this type of thinking is in your mind, you’re actually training yourself to avoid meeting anyone. The main thing you need to realize is that the way we envision bad things happening in our minds rarely, if ever, happen in reality.
Many of the things you envision in your mind happening if you approach him may well be the internalization of things you’ve seen on TV or at the movies. You must realize that this represents fantasy and not reality in any meaningful way.
However, many women do not realize or understand this and allow these internal thoughts to shape what they believe to be real – when nothing could be further from the truth.
You need to take these thoughts that are in your mind and reshape them in order to prevent yourself from being held back. Your attitudes and beliefs are key essentials to meeting and attracting the perfect match for you.
I understand that this may be difficult for you to do. The actual learning process of how to do this is the easy part. The hard part is actually doing it.
Don’t be one of those women that always say the next time she sees an attractive man she’s interested in, that she’ll do it then. That kind of thinking will lead to procrastination over and over again and ‘next time’ will never come.
The key is when you see someone you’d like to meet – just go up to him and initiate a conversation right then.
Some easy ways to do this is ask for directions, complement on him on his clothes or a tie he might be wearing, or simply ask him his opinion on something.
One of the best and easiest things you could do is to actually give him a compliment and have a genuine curiosity about who he is and what he does.
When you see someone you would like to talk to, make a decision and do it immediately. Don’t wait any more than 5 seconds or doubt will begin to creep in your mind and you will not follow through.
Even if it doesn’t work out for you at that moment, you can still come out of this a winner even if you just managed to get a smile from a man that you felt was out of your league.
The last thing to consider is that you will not have to wonder later on what would’ve happened if had you taken the initiative and gone up to meet him. After all, he might have been ‘The One’. It’s not hard to be more attractive to men. You just need to put what you learn into action.